It’s Day 11 of our Proverbs 31 Woman Bible Study!
Today, we’re going to dig into Proverbs 31:23:
Her husband is known in the gates,
When he sits among the elders of the land.
In yesterday’s lesson, we learned being a Proverbs 31 Woman means being prepared for the different seasons of life, especially the “winter” season. We also talked a bit about modesty and dressing in a way that reflects the focus of your heart. You can get caught up with yesterday’s lesson here!
In today’s video lesson we will look at how our character and virtue impact our husbands. We’ll also take a deep dive into the whole “pride thing” among men and why that’s so important.
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Have you ever considered the impact you can have on your husband? Imagine for just a moment the respect you can bring to your husband because of YOUR Godly character!
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Proverbs 31 Woman Bible Study Notes
- Your character and virtue can have a HUGE impact on your husband and his life!
- Men are wired with their pride, dignity, and honor at the core of their being. It’s important to keep this in mind, as you work on being his good thing!
- Respect is KEY! If you say you love your husband, then respect him. As you respect him, others will see this and follow suit.
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Proverbs 31 Woman Bible Study – Day 11 Overview
Your Impact On Your Man
Why did the scripture suddenly start talking about her husband?
This part threw me for a loop. Up until this point, we have been talking about the character traits of the Proverbs 31 Woman. Then all of a sudden, they mention her husband!
What’s up with that?
Here’s an interesting revelation. . .
This woman’s virtue and character caused her husband to be respected among the other highly respected men in their community.
How POWERFUL is that?!
In other words, your virtue and character has an impact on your husband and his life!
Yes, you want to develop these character traits because it’s good for your soul and grooms you as a Godly woman. However, as a result of this, you will bring respect, dignity, and honor to your husband.
This is one of the ways women are influential in the men in our lives, especially our husbands.
Our good rubs off on them and how others perceive them.
Our bad rubs off on them and how others perceive them.
We have to make a choice in the kind of influence we want to have on their lives.
Good or Bad?
The good will bring goodness to his life, including respect among his peers!
Pride, Dignity, and Honor
Men are wired to thrive off of pride, dignity, and honor.
One way we can help build and maintain this is to be a wife who is loving, respectful, diligent, and a willing worker.
This is considered honor among men. It says to other men that his house in order, as a result, your husband will be greatly respected for it.
We, also, should not cause any shame or disgrace to our husbands. No man wants to be shamed because of his wife. It’s totally a pride thing and just how God has wired men. They just don’t.
So do your best to live in a such a way that is honorable before God and your husband.
Men also take great pride in their wives!
Because we are “one,” when people see us, they see our husbands, too. It boosts a man’s confidence and pride, when he knows he has a ‘good thing’ in his wife!
So be that good thing!
There’s a confidence in my husband when I’m walking in these virtues and character traits because it speaks to my husband’s character and allows him to maintain his pride and dignity. . . even among other men.
Respect Is Key
We MUST respect our husbands.
Ephesians 5:33 tells husbands to love their wives and wives to respect their husbands.
Let me tell you something. . .
Respect = LOVE to a man
And there’s no other way around it.
Respect for men is key.
Respect for men is crucial to how God wired them.
A man who does not have respect is almost like a walking zombie. He’d rather you hang him by his toenails, than to disrespect him.
There is nothing worse for a man to not have the respect of his wife and other men in his circle or men he respects.
So, be sure you are respecting your husband and his role a provider, protector, and head of household. It starts with you! If you respect him and others see this, they will have no choice, but to respect him, as well.
Also, check in with your husband regularly to see if his respect tank is full. If it isn’t, then find out how you can adjust and grow in this area.
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Want To Learn More About the Proverbs 31 Woman Bible Study Series?
I pray today’s lesson blessed you BIG! We have so much more to glean and learn in our Proverbs 31 Woman Bible Study together!
Be sure to check out the next lesson in The Proverbs 31 Woman Bible Study Series! We’re going to talk about becoming that “good thing” to our husbands and why this is so important to him and our marriage.
Here are my other posts in the Proverbs 31 Woman Bible Study Series:
- Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About The Proverbs 31 Woman
- Proverbs 31 Woman Bible Study Companion Workbook
- Proverbs 31 Woman Bible Study Series – Day 1 (Virtuous Woman Character Traits)
- Proverbs 31 Woman Bible Study Series – Day 2 (What Does It Mean To Be A “Virtuous” Woman?)
- Proverbs 31 Woman Bible Study Series – Day 3 (Being a Proverbs 31 Wife – Are You His “GOOD Thing”?)
- Proverbs 31 Woman Bible Study Series – Day 4 (A Willing, Eager Worker)
- Proverbs 31 Woman Bible Study Series – Day 5 (How Far Will You Go For Your Loved Ones?
- Proverbs 31 Woman Bible Study Series – Day 6 (Being Mrs. Organized)
- Proverbs 31 Woman Bible Study Series – Day 7 (Are You Resourceful With Your Skills?)
- Proverbs 31 Woman Bible Study Series – Day 8 (Knowing The Worth Of Your Work)
- Proverbs 31 Woman Bible Study Series – Day 9 (Creating A Legacy of Philanthropy)
- Proverbs 31 Woman Bible Study Series – Day 10 (Being Prepared For The Seasons Of Life)
- Proverbs 31 Woman Bible Study Series – Day 11 (Your Impact On Your Man)
- Proverbs 31 Woman Bible Study Series – Day 12 (Are You A Proverbs 31 Business Woman?)
- Proverbs 31 Woman Bible Study Series – Day 13 (Speak Wisdom, Kindness, And Life)
- Proverbs 31 Woman Bible Study Series – Day 14 (Let Your Husband And Children Praise You!)
- Proverbs 31 Woman Bible Study Series – Day 15 (The One Thing That Matters Most – Eternity)
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Today, we looked at how our character and virtue impact our husbands. Ask your husband what you can do to show him more respect. Share a few of his ideas with us! (We can all glean from each other!) I’d love to hear your thoughts! You can chime in, by clicking here!
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Day 11 of this study is amazing! I love that it tells us how we treat our husbands, will have a huge impact on them. This shows us how respecting our husband will make all the difference on how others see him. Which is so important in our marriage. I do respect my hubby as the spiritual leader in our home & my sons see this and respect their father, which I believe is so important for them, so that we can be a good role model for their furure marriages. We are not perfect, but have a perfect God. I am humbled by how much God has done in our lives, it takes three in a relationship & God is the third❤ Love this! Thank you & God Bless you!
Twaneesa Davis says
I see it’s very important for a woman to set the tone in her home. Based on how others see your husband starts with the woman. My character is being revealed every day. It amazes me what all God has downloaded in a woman
So glad to see you growing!!
this is powerful. Because the relationship between a husband and wife is sanctioned by God. Therefore our rules are already defined. However it is important that both people work on themselves and then honoring your husband is easier and gives her pleasure.
Was challenged about 15 years ago to tell my husband what I respect about him. I had never heard of such a thing! Tried it. He literally began to inflate like a balloon! Several years later I read the book Respect Dare… similar to Love Dare but for women. It rocked my world. when people look down on Christian women and say we shouldn’t be submissive, really have no idea what the word is about! Love building my husband up and seeing him be successful!
I have a major problem with the respect thing. I do not understand it. I love my husband and can get past things, but there is so much about him that totally frustrates me. I do talk to others about it. Is that being disrespectful? Should I suffer in silence?
Are you talking to God and to your husband about your frustrations?
Louise Woods says
I have enjoyed all of the Bible Studies so far. I am learning what a Proverbs 31 Woman is and how to be one.
Carolas Purvis says
All I can say is WOW!!! Such a powerful lesson this morning, I’ve never seen it from this perspective before. I myself have been called the Proverb 31 Woman by the young ladies in my church. I will definitely share this lesson
Crystal Baldwin says
I really loved this topic about respecting your husband. My husband is such a good man and a provider. I believe he was born to be a husband (that’s a compliment) because so many struggle with this concept. Sometimes I feel a bit inadequate because I don’t work outside the home and I’m accustomed to providing for myself. We married later in life so we came into the relationship with our own baggage. As we grow together, we are recommitting ourselves to each other and the marriage. I feel really fortunate to have a man of this caliber. He has his issues… one of the biggest is he refuses to indulge in organized religion. I pray for him daily. This topic blessed me. Thank you for reminding me to bring dignity and honor to my husband.
This lesson was difficult for me -as I am currently going thru a messy divorce. As I was reading the lesson I was reminded of how I treated my husband and sacrificed my wants and needs for him. I was taken for granted and ignored. When I finally started to ask for what I needed and stand up for myself he began having an emotional affair. I was allowed to be disrespected by her and he refused to spend time with me and work on our marriage. I kept him covered and safe for 27 years and felt like I was just thrown away like trash and still I am being emotionally and financially abused. Please pray with me that I continue to trust God while undergoing the end to a 28 year marriage.
I have enjoyed all the lessons so far. I just wanted to say how true this lesson is. I wanted my husband to be more involved in the church like me and tried talking him into it, praying about it, then just learned to do by example. Over the years he has grown closer to God and is involved in the church now. We have a wonderful relationship because we communicate and respect ach other.
This is a good one too. It took a lot for me to ask him if his respect tank was full, but he said yes it was. First I had to explain what I meant. Powerful!!! Thank you!!!
Good Evening, This is day 11. Enjoy all the lessons, this one however caused me to read it again, and an area I have to work harder in.
This is a hard lesson for me. My husband doesn’t respect himself, or others. He can be very disrespectful to me when we’re alone, and especially when we’re with others. He thinks he’s being funny… I‘ve tried talking to him about it, but he turns it into a fight to get out of the discussion. Because of this I have lost respect for him and myself. I am really trying to reignite my spark and develop and grow into the P31W I am destined to be. I have noticed that the budding change in me and my attitude has made a difference in him and his attitude. Thank you for this study and your prayers.